HQ: 4y 11m old
QQ: 2y 9m old
Whenever HQ rings the alarm indicating that QQ does something naughty, like hitting HQ after snatching a toy from HQ, QQ immediately transforms into an irresistible angel. She’ll call “Mama” or “Papa”, depending who’s in charge, in her sweetest voice and give us her most angelic smile, sometimes batting her eyelashes once or twice. How to get angry with her like that?
Sometimes she’ll do the above, plus saying “Mama, I like you” and giving me a tender hug, smiling her sweet smile all the time. Yes, “Mama, I like you” has nothing to do with her hitting HQ, but at 2 plus now, she knows the effect of her saying those magic words. We will go all squishy and become all “Yes, darling girl?” or "I like you too". We can’t help but to fall head first into her trap. You say, manipulative or not?
If we do not fall into her above trap and she senses that our barometer of anger is still climbing, she’ll give a mournful cry, alternating between “Mama, I like you”, "Mama, don't be angry with me", or "Mama, sayang me" over and over again, and sticking to us like a leech. While making us believe that she IS the victim. If the first adult does not waver, she runs to the second adult nearby, with her mournful cries and charms by the truckloads.
While HQ looks on and reminds us the naughty things that she did. What do we adults do then? We look at QQ and try to reprimand her, but were met with tears rolling down her shiny eyes, soft hands holding on to you, and a sad voice purring “Mama, I like you”. We look back at HQ, then to QQ. And to HQ, we say “HQ, nevermind la… meimei’s still a small girl. It’s ok alright?”
Double injuries! HQ is being mistreated and QQ becomes a spoilt brat! *pulls hair*
WE GOT TO STOP DOING THIS! WAKE UP! *double slaps on the face*
*sigh* Not easy to be a parent, eh? You mummies facing the same problem?
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