Thursday, August 23, 2012

tying her own hair

Look, she tied her hair on her own! Nobody actually taught her, so i guess she learned the skill based on her own observation and experiments. Albeit a little messy, it's a good start :-)

QQ - 5 years old at the time picture was taken.

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Wednesday, August 15, 2012

as different as day and night

I brought mum and HQ to the fish market one Friday morning. While mum and I were choosing the fresh array of fishes, HQ too was busy feeling, touching, poking the different types of fishes and other shelled sea creatures. While asking a lot of questions. After paying for our fishes for the week, the fishmonger's helper cleaned the fishes for us.

HQ watched intently as the helper scaled the fishes, slit the bellies open and pulled out whatever's inside. He instantly asked me whether he can bring the scales, gills and innards home, so that he can "learn from them". He said he wanted to separate them to see the different components, compare them to see the differences between fishes and to dissect them to see what's inside. Eeww... Of course I refused his request. They're so dirty, smelly and full of germs! (On second thought, I should have said yes as it's really a good way of learning since he's so keen).

After I sent mum home and we reached our home, I just chucked the cleaned fishes into the fridge to be washed again later. HQ took his bath, ate his lunch and went to school.

So, HQ has always been curious about animals. While QQ will squirm and squeal when faced with cold and yucky things, HQ will relish in the experience and will not bat an eyelid.
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After QQ came back home and taken her lunch, I took out the fishes from from the fridge to be washed, and put into different containers to be frozen according to different meals. QQ came over to take a look. She saw me washing the fishes, with their heads intact and all. She was very quiet for awhile, then said while looking at the fishes with big wet eyes:

QQ: I know food (fish and meat) is good for us, but they are so pity (for the animals). I wish I don't have to eat them (fish and meat) anymore :'(

Ok, my fault. After this previous incident, I have been very careful in serving her fish... cannot let her see fish heads, bones or skin. Only the flesh of the fishes is fine. Now I reminded her of this "unpleasant activity" of cleaning fishes again :-s

She has voiced out that she rather not eat meat or fish and just eat vegetables, but I'm not ready to start her on being a vegetarian yet. Not now at a growing stage and so young an age. I'll let her make her own decision when she's older.

See how a simple activity of buying and cleaning fishes can produce such different responses from my two children? :-)

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Sunday, August 12, 2012

Datuk or Datin

Hubs and I were discussing how our national diver, Pandelela Rinong won a bronze medal for our country during the 2012 Olympic. We both agreed that she deserves to be awarded the Datukship. 

I then wondered aloud why women are awarded the "Datuk" title and not "Datin". Why is it that their husbands do not automatically enjoy the Datuk title? Like how it is when a man is awarded the Datuk title, the wife automatically becomes a Datin. 

QQ who overheard exclaimed: 

QQ: When a man is a datuk (Malay: grandfather), the wife is nenek (Malay: grandmother)!!! My Teacher teach me one!

Ok, haha, you're right, dearie! LOL!

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Friday, August 10, 2012

big brother

My kids love their cousins to bits. When they come from Singapore for holidays or for functions, my kids will be glued to them :-).

HQ and Rafa get along especially well. Here's some of the pictures taken of them together :-)

Aren't they sweet? :-)

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Wednesday, August 8, 2012

"farn tong"

One day after QQ's birthday, we had a birthday celebration for my 70-year-old Dad. Happy Birthday, Dad!!! Wish you have a long, blessed and healthy life!!! :-D.

Here's what some of the dishes that we had for the celebration dinner:







Of the above and other yummy dishes that we had, what do you think our little QQ insisted on?


Her mandatory (and favourite!) plate of white rice! *pengsan*

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Monday, August 6, 2012

compassion

While I was driving QQ home from her kindy, we drove past a section of the road where a construction of fixing some water pipes was being carried out. The road was thus closed at one side, and vehicles coming from both directions had to take turns using the one lane. A construction worker stood in the middle of the road signaling the vehicles to pass the narrow road. Our conversation:

QQ: What is that man doing?
Me: Oh, he's signaling for the cars to take turns to pass the narrow road.
QQ: Is he working? Why can't he work in a(n) office with air-cond like Papa?
Me: If he works in the air-cond room, how would he be able to help us signal which cars to pass?
QQ: Oh, he's is so poor (thing). It's a hot day and the sun is soooo hot! But he has to stand in the middle of the road to help us. So poor (thing)! 

And as we passed the guard house, QQ again mentioned:

QQ: The guard is very poor (thing) too. Has to work under the sun to help us open the gate. So poor thing. This guard and that man just now are good people.

So I took the opportunity to tell her why we should respect all people and their different occupations. I also pointed out how some people have the opportunity to work in comfortable offices and how others have to work in uncomfortable conditions. Hope she gets my message :-).  
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On sighting two dead cockroaches in the kitchen that morning, I bought a box of cockroach trap before going to fetch QQ. When QQ saw the pictures of cockroaches on the box, she asked: 

QQ: Oh, I know... you bought some toys for Koko (big brother). It's cockroach and insects right? 
Me: No, these are traps to catch cockroaches. 
QQ: GASP!!! 
Me: Why, what's wrong??? 
QQ: Why do you want to catch them???
Me: Of course we need to catch them. Cockroaches cause diseases and make people sick.
QQ: And then you will let them go?
Me: Of course not. I'll just throw the trap away.
QQ: But they just need a place to stay! 
Me: But cockroaches cannot stay the same house with us. They're full with germs and make people sick. 
QQ: They just need a place to stay! I know! Why not we build a house for them? A small one outside our house?
Me: Oh no... they will still come into the house for food. 
QQ: Then we feed them. 
Me: They will have babies and when there are so many, they will still come in the house. 
QQ: Then we feed them more food.
Me: Then they'll get more and more, and it will be dangerous for our health.

She then kept very quiet. I took the opportunity to explain to her while it's correct not to harm animals, it is important that we keep harmful pests away, and if need be, kill them. She then made me promise to only kill harmful pests like cockroaches, flies, mosquitoes and rats.   

While I'm glad that she has a compassionate heart, I hope this will be her strength instead of her being taken advantage of.

QQ: 5y 2w old.

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Sunday, August 5, 2012

changes

There are some changes around here... mainly on our schedules and my new role of a full time mum. Yes, I've left the corporate world to be a full time mum now :-).

Due to difference in logistics, transportation arrangement and some other changes, we have to make adjustments to our schedules as well. The kids are getting used to the new arrangement and are just so great and understanding.

I have been a working mum for 7 years, and everyday in those 7 years have not brought me as much joy and peace as I am experiencing now.

I must say my work had brought me great satisfaction, exposure, and independence. But in the context of a mum who is working, I have never felt so guilty - I felt guilt when I left my kids with my mum as I go to work, guilty when I took work leave to be with my kids knowing fully the amount of work accumulating on my work desk, guilty when I stay to entertain clients on evenings when I should be home with my kids, guilty when I have to say no to classes which my kids have requested (no one to ferry them around).

Since being a full time mum, I wake up earlier, cook more, rush a lot more, and my me time has virtually zeroed down to only after the kids' bedtime, which by that time I'm already too knackered to do anything than sleep. But I spend a lot more quality time with my kids. Hubs and I eat healthier cos we eat a lot more home-cooked food. I have more bonding opportunities with my kids. We talk a lot more. We share a lot more. We sing a lot more. And the kids fought a lot less.

Fulfilling the wish of my 7 year old to be a "home mama" (as how he termed it) is one thing that I wish to do since a very long time ago. My kids are happy. And I am at peace. At peace because I do not have to depend on another person to attend to my kids. At peace because the energy, effort and time, which I spent to building someone else's business, is now invested on my own beloved children. At peace because I am now doing what I am supposed to do as a mama :-).

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